You Are Not Alone.
A home and a resource for those who have lost an adult sibling.
This site is dedicated to those who have lost an adult sibling — a grief that is too often overlooked, minimized, or misunderstood.
T.J. Wray, a survivor of sibling loss herself, wrote the book on this topic — literally. Her book Surviving the Death of a Sibling is available on Amazon and has helped thousands of adult siblings navigate one of life’s most profound losses.
A new and expanded edition is coming in Spring 2027.
In the meantime, you are warmly invited to join the private Facebook group, where adult siblings from around the world come together to share, support, and simply be understood.
As a survivor of sibling loss myself, I know the importance of supporting one another — that is what led me to create this website. You are very welcome here.
T.J. Wray
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Surviving the Death of a Sibling
Living Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies
By Dr. T.J. Wray
★★★★★ 4.7 out of 5 · 927 Amazon ratings
When T.J. Wray lost her 43-year-old brother, her grief was deep and enduring — and, she soon discovered, not fully acknowledged. Surviving siblings are often made to feel as if their grief is somehow unwarranted.
This book helps adults who have lost a brother or sister realize they are not alone in their struggle, and teaches them to understand the unique stages of their grieving process, offering practical and prescriptive advice for dealing with each stage.
“Insightful, consoling, and filled with helpful, proactive steps… a must read for every surviving sibling.”
— Tom Golden LCSW, author of Swallowed by a Snake
Revised Edition
✦ COMING SPRING 2027 ✦
With a new introduction, afterword,
and updated resources
Inside the Book
Dr. Wray guides grieving siblings through searching for and finding meaning in a sibling’s passing · using a grief journal to record your emotions · choosing a grief partner to help through tough times · and dealing with the insensitive remarks that too often go unaddressed.
Join Our Online Community
17,000+ adult siblings from around the world — sharing, supporting, and simply being understood.
Join the Group →Our Stories.
Loss of Sibling to Suicide
My family changed February 14th, the day we learned my brother Randy died. Every day he is missed. Even 16 years later, it’s hard to believe I have to navigate life without him. No sharing our dreams, our goals, our lives. I’m just broken without him.
Loss of a Sibling to Homicide
For anyone who has lost someone to murder there is a stigma attached to it that others do not understand. I mean, people don’t kill other “good” people, right? The person killed had to have had some skeletons no one talks about.
A Sibling Loss Story: Billy Bob Thornton.
Actor Billy Bob Thornton opens up about how losing his brother, Jimmy, to a rare heart condition transformed his life forever.
The Moment My Sibling Passed - Sibling Survivor Stories.
A BuzzFeed video exploring the profound grief of siblings who witnessed their loved one’s final moments — and how they carry that memory forward.
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