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When T.J. Wray lost her 43-year-old brother, her grief was deep and enduring and, she soon discovered, not fully acknowledged. Despite the longevity of adult sibling relationships, we surviving siblings are often made to feel as if their grief is somehow unwarranted. After all, when an adult sibling dies, he or she often leaves behind parents, a spouse, and even children—all of whom suffer a more socially recognized type of loss.

From her own experiences, as well as those of many others, the book Surviving the Death of a Sibling was born, to help adults who have lost a brother or sister realize that they are not alone in their struggle.

She created a website where there was support and understanding available in a community setting. This site is an updated version of that site.

As the social media age dawned this in turn led to the beginning of a Facebook group. In fact there are now groups on Facebook and elsewhere dedicated to recognizing and supporting the needs of sibling grief survivors.

This site is for you. Our hope is that you find understanding and support here.