When T.J. Wray lost her 43-year-old brother, she found that sibling grief support was hard to come by. Her grief was deep and enduring. She also discovered that society did not fully acknowledge it. Despite long adult sibling relationships, surviving siblings often feel that their grief is unwarranted. When an adult sibling dies, he or she leaves behind parents, a spouse, and even children. As a result, all of those people suffer a more socially recognized type of loss.
From her own experiences, as well as those of many others, the book Surviving the Death of a Sibling was born. It helps adults who have lost a brother or sister realize that they are not alone. In time, the book became a touchstone for grieving siblings everywhere.
A Community Built on Sibling Grief Support
T.J. Wray created a website where she could offer sibling grief support and understanding in a community setting. This site is an updated version of that original site. Since then, we have expanded it to reach more people who have lost a brother or sister.
As the social media age dawned, a Facebook group dedicated to sibling loss grew out of this work. Today, groups on Facebook and elsewhere support sibling grief survivors around the world. Furthermore, these communities have helped thousands of people feel less alone in their grief.
This site is for you. Whether you are newly bereaved or have carried your loss for years, you deserve a space where your grief is seen. Therefore, our hope is that you find the sibling grief support and community you need here.
Browse our Our Siblings page to see tributes from members of our community. You can also reach out to us to share your own story and connect with others. You are not alone in this.